SELF LOVE: Don't let your happiness depend on what they say

The reason why people don't become what they are is because they are so attached to what they've always been. The people who go about saying that this is the way I have always been. I can't pass exams because since I started school I had never been at the top of any class. Nobody can love me because nobody has ever loved me. Why do you get angry every time? This is the way I have always been. This is refusal to move. Being attached to the what you've always been deprives your personal development and self love.
Many people are waiting for others to tell them that they are beautiful to feel beautiful, Some are desperate for likes and shares in the social media to feel love.You don't see no value in me so I don't see no value in me. That no one loves me so I don't love myself. STOP!!! You should love yourself independent of what people say about you.
Why do you want people's assurance  to be whom you are? Remember to note: Self love is the cure to self hate. You are a child of the most high God, created in the likeness of God Himself. You are special and shares no space with nobody else. The very moment you stop loving yourself, that is a disrespect to God.
To ladies, don't get into a relationship without something on the table of love. Feel yourself worth and place it on the table. Don't walk desperate, empty, depleted and dilapidated. Don't ever wait for him to tell you you are beautiful to feel beautiful, that you look good to feel you are good. Close your eyes to the world's nastiest comments about you, let not be taken down the drain of self despair and destruction because you depend on the world to love u. Love you even if there remains nobody in the room. Love you even if there seems nothing left to be loved in you. Love you without condition. That way you will harbor great love... and its by that that you can give love. Nobody gives what they don't have. You have love you give love. You don't have it, you dont give it.
There's something hidden from you when you  look at yourself in the mirror, that is the inner beauty of whom you are... not the lips, the face, the slim waist, the makeup, the beard, the six packs in your belly. That which you dont see and nobody else sees it. That is what you seek. Am I valuable enough to give value? Am I loving enough to give love. Am I disciplined enough?
The good news is, the person looking back in the mirror will determine what you become from now. He is either the enemy or the friend, positive or negative energy. He determines your failure or success.
Start loving yourself to generate and spread love. Remember, Nemo dat quod non habet.